When the time comes, it can be overwhelming to sit down and write all your thank you notes. Finding the time and the words is tough, but it doesn’t have to be. Now that all the wedding gifts are tucked away in their permanent place in your home, you can think about writing your notes.
First, think about the items you’ll need. Now that you’ve spent 6 months in “writing your last name 101” class, it’s time to order personalized thank-you notes. Ordering personalized cards is the most fun part of the process. After all, it’s the first set of stationery that has your married name on it!
So, pick your favorite design, personalize it with your favorite font, and you’ve got yourself fun stationery that you and your friends and family will be excited about. Remember, there is no requirement that says it has to match your wedding theme, but it makes the wedding bliss last just a little bit longer.
You’ll also need your address book, postage stamps, your favorite writing pen, and your personalized address labels or stamps to address your envelopes. This will save you a lot of time. 😉
When will you find the time, you ask? Relax. Wedding etiquette says you have up to 3 months to send your thank you notes after you receive a wedding gift. So, plan to write 5-10 thank you notes per night. Or, if you want to get it out of the way, spend a weekend writing! Pick your favorite spot in the house, be it by the pool, in the living room, or in a luxurious bubble bath, and write away!
Writing your thank you notes
Finding the right words to express your gratitude is the next step. This can be the hardest part. Coming up with what to say is not always easy, especially if you weren’t thrilled about the gift you received. Just remember the basics: Greeting, Appreciation and Elaboration, Additional Thoughts, Regards.
The greeting sets the tone for your thank you note and is the easiest part to write. Start with “Dear…” followed by the person’s name, and you’ve got yourself a solid greeting. If you don’t know the person well, use Miss, Mrs., or Mr., followed by the last name. It should look something like this:
Dear Aunt Suzie,
Dear Miss Jones,
Appreciation, Elaboration & Additional Thoughts
The best place to start is with “Thank You for the…” Tell the recipient how you intend to use the gift, or how often, or where it decorates your home best, depending on the gift. If you hated the gift and intend to return in (there’s typically always one), thank them for their kind thoughts using words such as “thoughtful, generous, kind,” etc. to convey your appreciation.
Don’t forget to thank your recipient for coming to the wedding if they attended. Keep in mind, they may have had to reschedule their own personal events and make travel arrangements to be there for you. Add any additional thoughts, such as when you might see them again. Now your note should look something like this:
Dear Aunt Suzie,
Thank you for the beautiful handmade quilt you gave us. We keep it on our couch to curl up under on cold evenings. I am so thankful you were able to join us at the wedding. I appreciate you traveling to be with us on our special day. We can’t wait to come see you at Thanksgiving.
Finally, it’s time to sign your note, using “sincerely” for those you may not know as well, or “love” for those you are really close to. Your handwritten signature adds the extra special touch you need to finish off your wedding thank you note.